Forgiveness by Nathaniel Paiva

Dear Uncle :) ,

Hope you are in good cheers !!

I hope that this might help you :) sometimes we

may need to take some initiative to settle matters, perhaps by talking to the offender, before we can forgive. (Ephesians 4:26) In this way any misunderstanding can be cleared up, appropriate apologies made, and forgiveness extended. What about forgetting? We may never completely put out of mind what was done, but we can forget in the sense that we do not hold it against the offender or bring the matter up again at some future time. We do not gossip about it, nor do we completely avoid the offender. However, it may take some time for our relationship with the offender to mend, and we may not enjoy the same closeness as before.

Consider this illustration: Suppose you confide a deeply personal matter to a trusted friend, and you later learn that he told it to others, to your great embarrassment or hurt. You approach him to talk things over, and he is very sorry; he apologizes and asks for forgiveness. Hearing his sincere apology, your heart is moved to forgive him. Do you easily forget what happened? Likely not; you would no doubt be very cautious about telling him any secret in the future. Yet you do forgive him; you do not continually bring up the matter. You do not store up your anger, nor do you gossip about it with others. You may not feel as close to him as you did before, but you still love him as your Christian brother.—Compare Proverbs 20:19.

What, though, if despite your efforts to settle matters, the offender does not admit his wrong and apologize? Can you forgive in the sense of letting go of your anger? Forgiving others does not mean that we minimize what they have done. Anger is a heavy burden to carry; it can consume our thoughts, robbing us of peace. Waiting for an apology that never comes, we may only get more and more frustrated. In effect, we allow the offending person to control our emotions. Thus, we need to forgive others, or let go of the anger, not only for their benefit but also for our own so that we may get on with our life.

If he does not admit his wrong and apologize he did not do his duty as a Christian and everyone is accountable to God for our actions. You did it by forgiving him ( letting go of your anger or resentment).

please also remember that

forgiving others for personal offenses, regardless of the number of times involved, is a Christian requirement. (Lu 17:3, 4; Eph 4:32; Col 3:13) God’s forgiveness is not extended toward those who refuse to forgive others. (Mt 6:14, 15)

Romans 12:17-19

Return evil for evil to no one. Provide fine things in the sight of all men. If possible, as far as it depends upon YOU, be peaceable with all men. Do not avenge yourselves, beloved, but yield place to the wrath; for it is written: “Vengeance is mine; I will repay.

I hope this helped you out Uncle :)

With love,

Nathaniel ( Nicky Boy :P)